It's the 'I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you either' at play. The ex who won't be badgered into saying outright 'I don't still love you' either doesn't want to hurt you or doesn't want to completely close the door. We learn from our mistakes and analysing past relationships is an effective way to avoid falling into toxic patterns of behavior. If you've had a long, significant relationship that worked well for a while, it's normal to have the odd 'Did I do the right thing leaving?' panic. Sometimes, it's not just you who finds it hard to let go. Their ego gets a boost every time they hear it.įor others, it's simply a polite question they feel they should ask to show mutual friends they aren't the cruel person they fear you're making them out to be.Įxes might ask mutual friends about you but don't confuse caring with love Other, less kind exes will ask friends what you're up to because they like the thought that you're still not over them. Wanting you to be happy isn't the same as wanting you back. If they're genuinely concerned about you, of course they will ask mutual friends how you are. Just because your ex doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship with you, doesn't mean they don't care.
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No wonder you've turned it into something else. Or they've been put off relationships for life after dating you. More likely is they're enjoying playing the field or taking their time before committing again to ensure they don't make the same mistakes. If you've only recently split, could be they're pretending they're single because they don't want to hurt you further.Įither way, it's irrelevant because there are many reasons why people stay single and not being over you is just one of them. They're still single - they can't move on eitherįirst up, how do you know for sure that they are single?įriends told you? They're not posting happy couple pics on social media? If your ex came back and then disappeared again, they obviously decided the connection wasn't there anymore. The ex, on the other hand, feels abandoned (again) and even more confused than they were. In most cases, they decide they are and move into the future without looking back again. If your ex comes over regularly when they're drunk and you sleep together before they leave early in the morning, it might just be a booty call If there is any residual feeling or doubt, people sometimes hook up one last time to see if they're making the right decision. It's not uncommon for people to revisit exes before making a serious commitment to someone new. If it happens once and then you don't hear back, it could be they were going back in order to move forward. If this happens on a frequent basis and it's followed by them leaving in the morning and not contacting you until the next they're drunk and frisky, you are simply their booty call.
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They come over when they're drunk and we end up having sex
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Or do they send a text apologizing and then swiftly backtrack when you ask if there was any truth to them missing you? What's telling is what happens the next day.ĭo they call you when sober to say, 'Sorry about calling you drunk last night but I actually meant what I said'? The only difference is, you do it when sober, they do it when they're drunk. Remember, you aren't the only one who romanticizes the past. If there's no one else around, people have a nasty habit of reaching for their phones to drunk call or text their ex. What's not is that nearly everyone feels needy and lonely when they're drunk and wants love, affection and sex. The truth comes out when you're drunk, right? They call me when they're drunk to say they still miss me. They just parked the car where there was a space.īeware reading too much into your exes actions – it's nearly always wishful thinking and a great way to keep yourself stuck. If you live or work in the same area as your much-missed ex, you're desperately trying to spot their car so are much more likely to notice if they've parked close by. Tracey (pictured) says it doesn't necessarily mean they still love you if they call when they're drunk